The silent period: when your child goes quiet in a new language
Your chatty child suddenly says nothing at daycare. Why that quiet phase is normal, and how we can support it.
You know your child as a little chatterbox at home. Then they start daycare or school in a new language, and the teacher tells you: “They don’t say a word here.”
It is one of the most common worries I hear from parents, and the good news is that it is usually completely normal.
What is the silent period?
Many young children who meet a new language go through a quiet phase first. They listen, watch, point, nod and play along, but they don’t speak the new language yet. This silent period can last a few weeks or several months.
It is not a sign that nothing is happening. Quite the opposite: the child is busy taking in sounds, words and the rhythm of the new language. Speaking comes later, once they feel ready and safe.
How can we support it?
- No pressure to speak. Asking “Say it in Dutch!” usually makes a child feel less safe, not more.
- Keep the home language strong. A child who can express themselves fully at home has a safe base to explore from.
- Play, play, play. Songs, picture books and games with other children give the new language a warm place to land.
- Notice the communication that is already there. Pointing, smiling and joining in are all communication.
- Talk with the teacher. Share what your child loves at home, so they can build a bridge at school.
When to ask for advice
If your child also stops talking at home, seems anxious in many situations, or the quiet phase lasts a long time without any progress, it is worth talking to a professional. Most of the time, though, patience and a safe environment are exactly what is needed.
Questions about your own child? Get in touch, I’m happy to think along.